Worried

My wife good bless her she had the sleeve about a year ago
and has lost a great amount of weight through diet and excerise now she is getting this done along with breasts lift
and she is doing it in mexico she will be gone for 14 days
but i am worried that when she gets back and having a smoking body i will be kicked to the curb does any husbands feel this way or maybe you gals can give me some insight thanks

[Ken]

I don't think you should be worried, women aren't like that. She's probably doing this for herself and her own self esteem.
If you have issues with your appearance, however, you might want to think about a trip to the doctor yourself

You are right have been working on my bod to lost 30 lbs
down to about 235 walkin dog stopped drinking beer but you know her shopping habits and some of the clothes she buying is making me wonder when she gets back is she going to be dressing trampy for others or for me not really hiding what she buys but not really showing me either I knew this was going to be done i just am a worried husband

[Vera]

Your concern is just, there is always risk in any surgery. But after losing a lot of weight I would want this done too.
Go to this website to prepare and get important info for pre and post surgery.
http://www.sfherbalist.com/docs/KSig...ansSURGERY.pdf
good luck.
vera
P.S. No you won't be kicked to the side. My husband supported me in every way, and I needed that support.

[Marianne]

St. John’s Wort has been shown to cause negative effects when a patient is anesthetized (prolonging the effects of the anesthetics). So it is recommended that St. John’s Wort consumption be ceased a week before surgery - although I have always been told 2 weeks.

Here is a list of other herbs and useful info from Anesthesia.wisc.edu http://www.anesthesia.wisc.edu/Clini...o/herbals.html

HTH

[AD aka Nonie]

I never read this thread before because I thought I would not have anything to offer. Worried Husband, I don't know how things are but I do know that for some women there's a joy that comes from knowing they look absolutely hot but only one man is worthy of their love/time. It's nice to be admired, a real self-esteem booster...but it's also fun to say, "No, thanks. I'm already spoken for." And even if her king looks like Shrek (not saying you do), it feels good and special to know only that one person, gets to really experience life with you. So your wife may be that person.

If she isn't, your insecurities could make you less fun to be around, so I hope you do not give up even if things feel like a lost cause. I hope you will take the time to learn a few things that could turn this around. I am not a man, nor have I read the book I'm about to suggest, but I did read some of the reviews, and I feel that a good man with a good heart and who knows just what buttons to push to make his woman feel like the luckiest girl in the world, can usually keep his girl--no matter how much better than he she is.

Here is the book: http://www.amazon.com/Stumbling-Nake...473705&sr=1-27

I hope the book is helpful, but if not, I hope you can hold onto the thought that no matter what happens, you didn't do anything wrong. You couldn't be anything you're not. You were true and that record will win over somebody--maybe even one you thought you were losing. (I recently watched the movie "Fireproof" (it's a Christian movie so those not interested in such may not enjoy it) but it was about a marriage that was falling apart. I won't say much more in case you want to rent it but I learned a lot about what it takes to make a marriage work. Feelings are not the be-all-and-end-all.)